Be Sure To Enjoy The Ride

You know that stock job interview question where you’re asked to specify a weakness and you flip it to become a strength?

Well, if you’re like me then the next time you have a job interview (which for me is admittedly quite unlikely) you can tell them that you’re a long-term planner and you’re always specifying a thing, setting goals and then working towards making the thing happen.

If it’s business related you apply this to a new opportunities. Maybe you’ll write some models to test things out and if you do decide to go ahead you might define some metrics to benchmark your progress. (Fear not, there will be progress.)

In your personal life (which for the self-employed is likely to get all mixed in with work too) you have your productivity system nailed. Doing regular reviews, weekly plans & daily time blocking. You might do the tomato timer thing, it’s fashionable to have Trello baked into your workflow somewhere and you may have all the Gmail keyboard shortcuts memorised. You could even have an annual retreat for a really deep planning session. Whatever. You plan, you’re a doer.

The interviewer at this point is looking at you all confused. “So, how is this a weakness?”

The problem – your weakness – is that with all this doing you’re sometimes (by default?) not leaving much space for any being. You’re all about focus on the end goal to the detriment of other ‘discretionary’ life tasks.

Like actually living.

Rachel Andrew posted a great article on A List Apart on the very same subject last week where she encapsulates this tendency perfectly:

there has to be balance. The more we obsess about our plans playing out as we had imagined, the less we leave ourselves open to new things

The key word here is balance. It’ll be different for you. For me it’s not so much about experiencing new things – although of course new experiences are really important too – it’s about the slowing down and just looking around to see what’s going on.

Mrs B has always called me ‘urgent’ and she constantly points out my (literal) ‘jiggly leg’. I’m generally already thinking about the next thing to be done, the next 50 miles I have to drive on the road trip, what I’ll be doing when we get wherever it is we’re heading.

Sound familiar?

If so, and at the risk of stating the obvious: it is not very healthy to live your life like this.

At best you’re missing out on the point of living and at worst, especially as you get older, it’s going to come along and bite you right on the arse one day. This is particularly true if you are also neglecting other important things like exercise, your diet & sleep (I’ll write more on this in the coming weeks).

The point I’m labouring here is that the part of your life journey that is happening right now is also important. You might want to consider finding the time to talk to your other passengers, to take a look out of the window or even maybe go on a little detour along the way.

In other words: be sure to enjoy the ride. Your journey isn’t a means to an end, it’s actually the reason you’re here.

2 Comments Be Sure To Enjoy The Ride

  1. Mike

    { Dude, great post, you know I’m with you on this shit. I also owe you a phone call. ~jiggles leg~ }

    I went for this particular interview a long bunch of years ago. It was with Waterstone’s Exeter – I wanted to work with good shit and books are good shit, so it all made sense.

    Anyway. I was all hyped up, post-uni, pretty full of myself, a boy who’d been away and come back to his home town – ready to show the locals a thing or two about how the real world was done. Or something.

    So I go to this interview, all suited up and having done a whole bunch of prep on my CV and getting ready for the kinds of questions that people get asked at these things. We do the interview – she’s the Assistant Manager, and a nice lady, and things are going well from my point of view. I talk about books and experience, and we get on. There’s a good vibe in the room.

    Then she asks for me to tell her about my strengths. I reel off this massively long list of my (perceived) strengths – the usual bollocks: self-starter / great under stress (yeh, right, like we all love that shit) / team player / very organised / good background knowledge in literature / arty yet you know a bit sciencey / etc.

    She seems impressed, then says “..and your weaknesses?”.

    I’m completely, totally, utterly unprepared for this. This question just wasn’t on my list of Things That They Ask You. My mind stalls. My oh-so-smart-a-minute-ago brain has apparently taken a big tug on a reefer or just popped out for lunch and simply can’t fill the void with anything at all. Not a bean. There is total, horrendous silence for a minute or two.

    She looks at me over the top of her notes, smiles, and then just says this:

    “A trifle…arrogant, perhaps?”.

    I learnt a big lesson that day 🙂

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    1. bealers

      Did you get the job? 🙂

      My best job interview was in a men’s urinal.

      (Before you get too excited it was as a field sales person for hot air hand dryers)

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